The Feminine Heart

There are three desires that are essential to a woman's heart, which are not entirely different from a man's, but yet they remain distinctly feminine.

Not every woman wants a battle to fight (like men), BUT every woman yearns to be fought for. She wants to be more than noticed - she wants to be wanted. She wants to be pursued. Her childhood dreams of a knight in shining armor coming to rescue her are not girlish fantasies; they are the core of the feminine heart and the life she knows she was made for. In the film, True Lies, Harry fights back for Helen. In The Proposal, Andrew flies back to New York to fight for the love of Margaret. In Ocean's 11, Danny fights to win Tess back from the grasp of Terry Benedict.

Every woman also wants an adventure to share. So many men make the mistake of thinking that the woman is the adventure. But that is where the relationship immediately goes downhill. A woman doesn't want to be the adventure; she wants to be caught up into something greater than herself. A woman once said, "I know myself and I know I'm not the adventure. So when a man makes me the point, I grow bored immediately. I know that story. Take me into one I don't know."

Every woman also wants to have a beauty to unveil. Not to conjure, but to unveil. Most women feel the pressure to be beautiful from very young, but that is not what is being spoken of. There is also a deep desire to simply and truly be the beauty, and be delighted in. Most little girls will remember playing dress up, or wedding day. What she longs for is to capture her daddy's delight. A friend of mine has a little girl, and one time recently, she was standing on a chair, singing at the top of her lungs, a song she learned at school. Do you see me? asks the heart of every girl. And are you captivated by what you see?

The world kills a woman's heart when it tells her to be tough, efficient, and independent. Sadly, Christianity has missed her heart as well sometimes. Walk into some churches in America, have a look around, and ask yourself this question: What is a Christian women? Again, don't listen to what is said, look at what you find there. There is no doubt about it. You'd have to admit a Christian woman is... tired. A lot of the time, all we are offering the feminine soul is pressure to "be a good servant." No one is fighting for her heart; there is no grand adventure to be swept up into; and every woman doubts very much that she has any beauty to unveil.